Boudoir Confessions: Be Kind to Yourself

Hey Dolls,

So here’s the scoop, I live with 3 bombshell blondes who are itty-bitty, skinny-mini. I’m talking the whole package: little waist, slender legs, flat stomach, all crowned by beautiful golden hair. My life is rough. One of them recently did an impromptu boudoir shoot for her boyfriend for Valentine’s Day. Her photo shoot turned out perfectly and her images are absolutely gorgeous. Her original plan was to make a calendar of 13 images, but now she’s having anxiety about narrowing down because she loves way too many of them.

What a horrible problem to have, am I right? So in the back of my mind, I’m looking at her images and thinking, “There is no way I’m ever going to look like that.” “I can’t do that pose, I’d look like a bloated porpoise.” “That outfit would make me look like a busted can of biscuits, how does it look so bomb on her?” Then I was upset, so I had a date with my favorite men, Ben and Jerry.

“No one else sees that thing you perceive as a flaw. Be kind to yourself”

Now my point in all this is not to tell you about my own insecurities or my secret ice cream eating habits, but rather to let you know you’re not alone. I know that you have those same thoughts, no matter what size or shape you are. This is something I hear from 99% of our clients on a daily basis. Even heard it from my roommate about the images she didn’t like. I’ve had clients verbally rip themselves apart, pointing out the most minuscule flaws and judging every detail of themselves. So here’s what we tell those clients, “Remember that YOU are your own worst critic, no one else sees that thing you perceive as a flaw. Be kind to yourself.”

“Start by complimenting yourself”

So we must be kinder to ourselves, especially with our inner dialogue. The things we say about our bodies have a severe impact on our mental health and well-being. Start by complimenting yourself. I challenge you to look in the mirror and tell yourself out loud that you’re beautiful once a day. Try to really mean it, too. It will be difficult at first, and it will feel really awkward, but it’s actually proven to improve self-esteem over time. Soon you’ll begin thinking less about what other people think about you and more about what you think about yourself.

The more comfortable you are with who you are, the more conscious you’ll become of how you can encourage other women to do the same. Working at CYS gives me a unique advantage to empower other women to truly love the way they look, but I feel like I can’t successfully do that until I fix my own negative thoughts.

And I know that it’s easier said than done, but just know that in the journey of self-love, you’re not alone. And remember that there’s nothing wrong with a little Ben and Jerry’s every so often.

Until next time, babes.


Boudoir Confessions: Woman in boudoir pose